At my OA Meetings last week, I kept hearing the same message: Self-love is about taking ACTION. Now, I know this already, I mean, it’s pretty obvious that HP doesn’t just drop the gift of self-love from the sky. WE have to CREATE it through action. In order to create self-love we first have to have the awareness to want to do so.
I stumbled upon a great post on a SELF.com blog which discusses self-love as it pertains to body image. The blogger, Lucy, used Katy Perry’s “Firework” song to show we do all have a spark inside, and we should take the actions to let it shine! The problem for many (I used to be one) is that we’re so used to (and comfortable with) self-hatred that we are afraid to take action that might actually make us feel better. That is INSANITY! The disease of addiction, body-hatred, self-hatred—whatever dis-ease you feel—is sneaky and wants nothing more for us than to be miserable.
All I need to do to get into right action is to ask myself a few questions:
Is this action going to make me feel good about myself?
How will I feel tomorrow if I do this behavior?
Do I want to hate myself today or love myself?
All are similar, but I have to tell my brain things several different ways in order for it to listen.
Everything in recovery is truly about ACTING your way into right thinking. Everything. In the meeting I went to yesterday, the qualifier mentioned that she turns her actions of recovery over to her sponsor, like she would her food. I love that and will start implementing that TODAY, just for today.
What actions will you take today? Self-hate or Self-love?